Dating the right way
This advice transformed every relationship in my life – not just the romantic ones.
Before I knew these things, I was unintentionally holding my partner responsible for my happiness.
My relationships are more meaningful, more loving, more free, and most importantly – more fun!
And my overall happiness continues to grow, too, regardless of whether I’m in a relationship or not. I went on dates, had fun, didn’t give my heart away foolishly, and met my husband.
My parents advised what they did in their own marriage: “both of you always think about giving 90% to your partner and you both will be very happy.” They meant it’s so important to think about how your partner is feeling, to stand in their shoes, to be giving and compromising, and emotionally generous.
Wouldn’t it be better if you could find a way to feel how you want to feel regardless of what you’re partner is saying or doing?
She has partnered with Tylenol on the new #How We Family program and national study to share more information about the modern American family.
For more information visit It’s not my partner’s job to make me happy. Of course it’s easy to feel good when my partner is acting in a way that I want —but needing them to be a certain way in order for me to feel good —that’s bondage. We deliberately focus on things to feel good in our lives and for things to appreciate in one another.
We are a terrific team and often we agree on what we want.
And when we don’t, we tend to take turns supporting the other’s wants. Gail Saltz, is a clinical associate professor of psychiatry at New York Presbyterian’s Weill-Cornell Medical College.